Just lately... as I am typing in a comment, after I have it partially written, I delete it and exit the article without leaving a comment. I find myself doing this more and more. I feel like I am not in the mood for a futile angry exchange of words. I try pretty hard to look at things from the perspective of people who disagree with me, but I find it so tiringly disappointing to repeatedly discover that those people have no interest in understanding my viewpoint. I ask myself, "Why am I doing this? What do I hope to achieve?"
We see a comment that someone has made, and suddenly we feel it is our duty to right a wrong... to set the record straight. We approach conversation by saying, "You are wrong, and this is why!" If the outcome of a discussion is that both of the two sides feel they have achieved some sort of victory, because each feels they have made their case the best, and any intelligent person would have to agree... What's the point? Why not say, "I don't understand why you feel that way, please explain what brought you to your viewpoint." Our lives are defined, given meaning, by the relationships and interactions we have with others. If our objective is to change everyone to be the same as we are, so we will never have to change ourselves, then we are bleaching all the interest out of our relationships.
I am not trying to change peoples view point, but if I express a differing viewpoint most people act like they think that is my objective. I enjoy discussion with people having different views, but only if I see that they have the same genuine curiosity in my views that I have in theirs. Only if I see them making an effort to understand me, not necessarily agreeing or even actually succeeding in understanding, but at least trying to understand me. This is so rare... it happens, but it is much more common for people to spend all their energy staunchly advocating for their views, rather than wondering to themselves what it is about differing views that others find appealing. So many people, including many people who share my views, seem to be trying to convince the world that everyone should think the way they think.
Why not celebrate our diversity?
Why not take comfort in knowing that we are not all the same?